Not her thumb, mind you, her finger. It has comforted her from the beginning. Whenever she has been hospitalized we make sure the IV is not in her left hand and if possible not in her hand at all.
Bridget receives such comfort from her finger I have never tried to break the habit. While I recognize it is cute now at age six (holy crap she is SIX!), it might not be at sixteen. Yet how can I take this one thing away from her?
I know the rationale, that a “chewy” (as Bridget calls it) is easier to remove than an appendage. That the goal of all of Bridget’s therapies is to make her more “normal”, to fit-in, to make her a part of a society that doesn’t understand she needs the comfort and oral stimulation of her finger (or chewy). The goal is to one day remove the chewy, that she will no longer need it.
Except Bridget cannot tell us why she sucks her finger. We assume it is comforting. We assume it is an symptom of the sensory processing disorder. We do not know for sure why it is important to her. The knowing is important to me. To take it away because we have decided it is not something we want her to do, seems alien to me. Let’s face it, she is not biting people or being self-destructive.
She is sucking her finger.
I am struggling, as always, with trying to change who Bridget is to fit her in to what society thinks is right. I am for inclusion, but at some point don’t we have to accept that this is Bridget.
Red hair, dimples and all.