I apparently have a face. A face that anyone from friends to loved ones to perfect strangers can say anything they want to me, without repercussion.
For example, just this week I was in the Supermarket. My cart was loaded down with the $1 Friendly Sundae cups. Now I realized I looked kind of ridiculous. I had plenty of salad fixings but then about 10 of the Sundae cups.
Anyway this woman in front of me says: Oh my, you must really enjoy those!
I wanted to reply: Look lady, I don’t even EAT ice cream. These are for the older child and her father. The one who will take a WHOLE gallon of ice cream to the fire station. This way they each get their ice cream at night. Oh and the older child can get her own serving. This leaves me more time to play Words With Friends. But I held my tongue.
Another example? Once day during Mass, during the moments when you give Peace to the individuals in the pew behind you a man replied: Peace be with you, with that one you will probably need it.
But the one comment, the one that really frosts me? The comment that makes me crazier than crazy warrior mom?
Excuse me… She will “grow out of it”? Let’s get this straight, people. Boo will continue to make gains. Boo will continue to astound us. But Boo will never be “normal”. Boo works very hard to be an almost-2YO in an almost-5YO body.
I am not trying to be Downer Debbie. I applaud everything Boo does. But I also am privy to the hard work it takes to get her there. Boo works harder at being Boo than a Harvard grad trying to get a minimum wage job in this economy.
I wish I could believe that Boo will “grow out of it”. But I cannot. The past two nights I listened to her cry herself to sleep because she doesn’t understand we are not in a hotel and Allie cannot sleep with her. I have watched her bang her head when she cannot have one more cupcake. I have witnessed her meltdowns, her laughter and her tears.
I have watched her hug Allie in one moment and swipe at her face the next.
Yes, Boo has come a long way. Such a freaking long way. She still needs a translator half the time to those who do not know her language. Boo still brings home art work that we know her aide did (trust me, her aides are much craftier than I am!).
And that, that one thing, is what really drives me crazy. That the people who love her the most thinks this is something Boo will outgrow. I know they mean well. These friends, family and strangers.
But Boo is never going to ‘catch up’. Boo will be all that she can be. Quite frankly that is enough for me.
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So let me know, what really drives you crazy?
PS–oh, one quick catch-up. Boo unfortunately will not be attending the birthday party. It is being held the same day as the NSTAR Walk for Children’s Hospital. Since Boo is our Team Captain she has to attend! But she was invited and that still counts.