Monthly Archives: January 2015

Be kind

Kind “wanting and liking to do good things and to bring happiness to others”

I want both of my girls to be kind. I want to be kind yet find myself struggling to bring happiness to others. Anyone who heard me screaming at Abby over the weekend for just once to do something I ask without asking why can attest that I am rarely kind. I am not a model of behavior that I want my children to possess. Continue reading

My Challenge: Laurie


I am in awe of today’s My Challenge. I have to offer full disclosure here, I’ve known Laurie since we were in High School. Now our kids go to school together. That is how fast time flies. Last summer Laurie faced a life altering event. I thought her story was so important and compelling I asked her to share it here in the My Challenge Series. I am so thankful she was willing to participate.

Laurie is a nurse, not a professional writer, which makes her words even more powerful. Please welcome my friend… Continue reading

I’m a writer not a speaker

Our town is currently going through the budget process for the upcoming year. Have you ever looked at your town budget? I have been going through just the school department budget (line by line) and it is enough to make my hair straight.

One of the reasons I love living in a small town is the opportunity to be involved in the process. Everyone truly has a voice, if they use it. In the school department case, the townspeople elect the (unpaid, volunteer only) school committee. The committee hires a superintendent. The superintendent hires the school staff. People unfamiliar with small town policies forget that at the end of the day, the school superintendent and committee answer to the townspeople. We are supposed to be involved and ask questions so we understand not only what is happening in our town but why our taxes get raised (every freaking year). Continue reading


Throw back Thursday, blogging style. This post was originally published on 05-APR-2013. It was part of a series called 5-minute Friday. Where with a one word prompt you write for five minutes unfiltered.

It is time to join Lisa-Jo for 5-minute Friday. The time of day where you write for 5 minutes,unedited, just to show you can.

After I grow up I will do something meaningful.
After the kids go to bed I will relax.
After the husband goes to work I will clean the house.
After, after, after…. Continue reading

Be one of Thousands

Compassion: “a feeling of deep sympathy and sorrow who is stricken with misfortune, accompanied by a strong desire to alleviate the suffering” (Dictionary).

I want to instill in Abby (and Bridget) what compassion is and is not. Sadly so many of us, myself included, forget the second half of the definition. Continue reading

I thought I was getting a lobster

It has been a while since I was rewarded with the Leibster award. This is an award completely made up in the blogging world to validate that your blog does matter. Even if only 2 people read it. Lucky for me, more than 2 people read my words. However I am so very grateful to British Mum USA considered me the for the award.

Except, when I saw it on Twitter it said I was awarded the Lobster award. Which is cool because I totally love and I mean LOVE with capital letters lobstah. Have to love auto-correct, don’t you? At first I was just a little disappointed. Only because I had popcorn for dinner and was still hungry.

Now you are craving lobster, right? Instead I am going to gift the Leibster award to a few deserving writers.

Trios Liebster Award

Here is how it works, she asks me gives me an award and 10 questions. Then I pass the award on to some other wonderful bloggers.  I am supposed to ask them new questions, but I will probably cheat and reuse most of Ray’s awesome questions.

  1. Where have you lived that you loved? Right where I am. Seriously, I love my town and my home. We have the best community ever.
  2. Where would you love to live and why? If I had to move, and by that I mean was forced off the island, I would choose the coast of Maine. I just love being in Maine where you have the coast and the mountains within a few hours of one another.
  3. Why do you blog, is it what you thought it would be? This should be two questions! I started to blog because I needed an outlet. I felt so alone with Bridget. The first year I kept the blog a secret from those who know me in real life. That was a mistake. While I made a tremendous friendship in Kristi  and others it took going public in 2013 to realize what I was missing with my real life friends. Between the two worlds I have succeeded in why I began blogging, to find my village. For the second part of the question, not at all. I never in a million years thought this blog would grow beyond Tia & Jenn reading it. To know I have impact on others? Holy crap it’s been a fantastic three years.
  4. Do you enjoy time to yourself, solitude? I’m sorry, time to myself? I’m not sure I know what that phrase means!
  5. Best book/movie read or seen lately? Killing Patton. It wasn’t really about killing him. He dies in the first chapter. But to learn more about the history of WW2 was quite amazing.
  6. What have you learned recently? Not so much learned, but remembered that people are there for you if you let them. But you have to let them know.
  7. What super power would you like to have? For Abby to do what I ask without questioning me
  8. What plug-in or app can you not live without? Gosh, I hate to admit it but Facebook. I think I’m addicted.
  9. Name a food that you hated as a child, and love now!  Just about everything. I was a wicked picky eater. I think my mom (and husband) would still say I’m the worst eater ever. But I’m much improved.
  10. Have you ever found yourself in a LOL situation, what was it? This morning. I was trying a new exercise move in the bathroom (called the skater, don’t ask) when I tripped over my own feet and almost knocked myself out on the bathroom vanity. After I finished laughing I gave thanks that no one was there to witness it.

Thank you to British Mum for gifting me with the Leibster. I am sorry for being so late to respond. But well, holidays and hospitalizations cramped my style!

Here are the next group of winners (you can answer the same questions because they were fun!):

1. Looking for Blue Sky
2. Mardra
3. Sandcastle
4. The Maine Forest Cafe

Check out these cool bloggers for their unique perspective on the world. They are all very different and worthy of a peek!

How to make IEP process suck less

Any special needs parent will tell you that one of the most difficult things to navigate in their child’s life is the IEP. For those who do not know the Individualized Education Plan (IEP) is a mandated program through the federal government. Unlike doctors, treatments or therapies you might not prescribe to the IEP is something you cannot get out of if you are in the public school system and your child has learning difficulties. Continue reading

Sleep…please sleep

It’s 8 o’clock at night. Bridget has been in her bed for an hour. A blessed hour. This is one kid who enjoys her sleep. Usually at 6:30 pm she starts asking for her pajamas and bed. I put her off until 7 pm knowing she will be up at the butt crack of dawn or 7 am as the locals call it. That rain, shine or Apocalypse this child has an internal clock more accurate than my alarm clock. Continue reading

Why a special prom?

Tim Teebow’s foundation is doing something many think is quite awesome. His foundation will be sponsoring a prom for children with special needs. The event is being held in 50 different sites throughout the country.  I know I should be giving this huge thanks and appreciation but I don’t get it.

Why do children like Bridget need their own prom? Continue reading