I am usually an optimistic person. It drives my husband crazy that I always look for the silver lining. The truth is, life with Bridget isn’t always easy. Beyond doctor, therapy, school and paperwork there is also just life with a child who cannot express her frustrations.
Recently I was taken aback when I was told that I am doing parents a disservice because I am promoting that having a child with special needs is all sunshine and none of the darkness. I asked if they read more than one of my blog posts, because I tend to vent quite a bit on our struggles. Continue reading
I know you are getting a lot of advice as you transition from High School to College or from College to the “real world”. Everyone is telling you to enjoy this, the “best time of your life”. As my brother pointed out to me, this isn’t quite true. You see the best time of your life has already happened. At the same time you are no where near the best time of your life.
The best time of your life was your first step. Your first day of school. Your first crush. Your first kiss. Your first bike ride.
The best time of your life was the moment you received your license. The day you pitched your first no-hitter. The day you scored the winning goal or you starred in the school play. The night of your first sleep over.
The best time of your life was finding your best friend, for real.
The best time of your life was your first dance, your first homecoming, your prom, your graduation day.
The best time of your life will be your first apartment, your first love, your first ‘real’ job. The day you started exploring the world without a chaperone. The day you realized you can still call home.
The best time of your life will be taking trips with friends, experiencing the world at 18, 28, 38 and beyond. You will laugh and cry and say remember when you talk about those trips in the not so distant future.
The best time of your life will be finding your true love, the person who makes you whole. Your new life together, starting your family.
The best time of your life will be when your child comes into your life, when you explore the world through their eyes.
The best time of your life will be after the children are grown and you are still holding hands with your mate.
You will have many best times of your life. Don’t focus on this fleeting moment, don’t squander or yearn for this time in your life. Live each moment as it should be lived.
That moment will become the best time of your life. Enjoy it.