Monthly Archives: January 2014

What to buy….

Do you know the song by Barenaked Ladies, If I had a million dollars?

Of course you do. Unless you only listen to classical music and then I just educated you. But if I had a million dollars I don’t know what the heck I would do with all that money. In all seriousness. Other than quit my job. Like not even call in sick. Just call in quit. Like, Hey I have a million dollars I don’t need to work in an office that is 95 degrees when it is only 10 degrees outside!

David would still work. He’d have to because, well that is how our relationship survives. I don’t understand couples that spend 24/7 together. Admire, yes. Understand, not so much.

Along the BNL theme, I would build a tree fort in the yard. Yeah. I wouldn’t build it so much as I would hire the Tree House Masters people from Animal Planet. Have you seen that show? 

Abby has tree house envy. Especially since she doesn’t have a tree house. Just a great play set that our neighbor walked through the woods when their kids outgrew it. I have great neighbors. They deliver milk, wine and playgrounds. 

If I had a million dollars I would buy a new car. Only because the muffler finally fell off the car I have had longer than I have been married. I really don’t want to give that car up, but for a million dollars and not have to drive around dragging a muffler? That would be doable. 

If I had a million dollars I would hire someone to clean my bathrooms. My most hated chore around the house. Each week I wonder why I have two bathrooms for four people. Couldn’t we all just use one? But I would only hire someone until I figured out how old Abby has to be in order to use chemicals to clean the bathroom. Then it would be her job to clean the bathroom. Let’s face it, I give her a tree house she can clean the bathroom.

If I had a million dollars I would still be a mom, a wife, a blogger and a friend. Not much would really change.

Who am I kidding? If I had a million dollars I would plan the best vacation ever! Right after I called in quit.

What about you? If you had a million dollars you would……

 

Finish the Sentence Friday

I made a mistake

Two apologies in one week? Nope! Jen over at Twisted Mix Tuesday wants a playlist for the time she I made a mistake. And she covered herself by saying it doesn’t have to be in love, cause there are all types of mistakes after all. 

Generally a mistake happens not because you did something wrong but because you got caught. Seriously, would Bill Clinton ever have apologized if not for a blue dress? Here is my list of you should’ve known better before you needed to confess to your parents, your spouse, your nation and/or your God.

The Dixie Chicks stepped in it. Not for having their view but for having the nerve to say their view in a foreign country thereby offending every one of their base. You know, the ones that buy the records (they are still called records, right?). It didn’t help that this would have been a non-issue had our next gentleman made sure everyone knew about it.

Tobey, Tobey, Tobey….I like your music. You have one of the best concerts ever. But please remember, you are a musician not a politician. This song proves your depth, your feeling and why you are the way you are. Knowing that you wanted to reach out one more time to a friend. Priceless. That you were honest enough to say you were crying more for yourself? We’ve all been there.




Madonna probably had more songs about mistakes in the 80’s & 90’s than most of us in our lifetime. Papa Don’t Preach was great because it had Danny Aiello, who I wanted to be my dad in the worst way in the 80’s. Who didn’t after Moonstruck?  But it was also the song that any girl who ever found herself ‘in that way’ felt. That they probably were due the lecture but needed the support.

This is officially the biggest mix-upped tape I have ever compiled. I’ve covered Nation, God and Dad. Now about that spouse:



Elton, oh he could say sorry without saying it at all. Oh and there should be one last mistake song. As in a mistake this song was written, performed and put onto the internet:




Come on now, I dare you to use that as a pick-up line.  How about you? What is your song that says oops you did it, again?



I owe an apology

Like many, I have fallen trap to a Facebook hoax. I reshared a link that stated Jenny McCarthy informed the world that her son did not have autism. Thankfully she was quick to rebuke the misleading information. By misinformation I am speaking to the fact that she has never said her son does not have autism.

I rarely reshare celebrity stories or thoughts because I usually do not believe (or care about) the hype.  But in this case it hit a nerve.

 

I admire Ms. McCarthy for being a proponent of autism education. I admire her dedication to her son and her willingness to say this is what autism looks like. I do wish more people would say MAY look like.  As any friend of mine with a child who has autism will tell you, they are unique from the color of their hair to their behavior to their abilities.

However her strong campaign against vaccination is something I cannot agree. It worries me when people use a celebrity endorsement to justify their own actions or non-actions. It is one thing to decide to go gluten-free to do your own investigation on how your child will react. It is another not to vaccinate your child (and potentially expose other children) to a life-threatening disease. In the only published study linking vaccinations to autism the lead researcher lost his medical license due to his irresponsibility in the conduction of the study and the study was revoked from medical publication. 

I understand that you can interpret a study to suit your purpose. Pro- or anti- vaccine link. I am not speaking to that as I am completely inept at that discussion.To paraphrase the Vice President of Clinical Innovation at Cedars-Sinai stated to the National Geographic: you can have an opinion but you cannot state that opinion as fact.

I have two different views on this subject, from two ladies I both respect and admire.

The first is a mom who decided not to vaccinate her children. However she did this after reading medical journals, doing her own research and consultation with her children’s pediatricians.

The second is a mom who vaccinated her children, but to her it was a deep seeded belief to vaccinate. Her mom was a polio survivor. But survivor is probably a poor term. Her mother was a polio warrior. One who suffered in the time before vaccination. She fought polio until her death at age 70. Her children watched her suffer and live with grace.

Myself? I honestly didn’t think of it with either child. I automatically vaccinated them. However with Boo I spoke with her pediatrician and they modified the schedule due to her health issues. Our Pedi is great. She is very conservative when it comes to vaccinations–even the flu shot–and will minimize the quantity of vaccinations given at one visit. And if you have a runny nose? She will reschedule your appointment and not six months from now. Just call and stop by. She is quite awesome, in addition to saving Boo’s life five years ago.

I am on my soapbox here, and I admit it. I also have no problem telling you and everyone else my opinion on something. But you should never use a “Jenn said” as your reason for choosing a course of action with your child.  

As far as autism and the decision not to vaccinate, research has proven that there is no correlation. In most cases this would be a non-issue. The studies have proven time and again that there is no link. However celebrity causes will continue to advocate for more research. Which is great, that is what you should advocate: more research not telling a scared mom that a vaccine gave her child autism.

The decision not to vaccinate your child should be based on your own research, consultation with your physician and a heck of a lot of soul-searching.

But never on the basis of a celebrity. 

Goals


My blogging goals for this year are not so easily defined.  I really don’t have any! If I had to list goals, and I do because the FTSF ladies told me to, it would be:

Okay, totally stumped here. I mean, it’s a blog and its mine I should have some type of goal. Right? I started the blog more as a mind-dump/stress reliever more than anything else. It has evolved into something more. So much more.


I have regained, found, created and been given friendships I didn’t know existed. I have become an advocate, a humorist, and sometimes self-pitying mom. I have helped and been helped. I have counseled and been counseled.I have laughed, cried and been shocked on this blog.

I never knew words, my words, could hold power. I never realized back in June of 2012 when I started this journey that I would find support in my backyard and as far away as Australia. 
I guess my blogging goal for 2014 is to continue and grow. Thanks for helping me do both! 
Finish the Sentence Friday

Boo goes to the Movies

We took Boo to her first ever movie theater experience. We were worried, she did great in the drive-in but who doesn’t have fun doing a sleep over in the back of a truck? Boo doesn’t do well with really loud noises and we were a bit concerned that she would be overstimulated.

 

We did not count on the popcorn. Or should I say her new favorite food (she does take after me!). We got a large popcorn and I think she ate 99% of it. She did get nervous with the noises but that didn’t really stop her from devouring the kernels.


Afterwards Abby asked her if she liked Frozen. Boo’s response: Princess Popcorn

Hmmm sure kid.

So it was a success. Except the movie theater is in the same plaza as her therapies. Every time we enter the parking lot we hear:

POPCORN!!!